My husband has been saying several times now over several years, that cheating on your wife isn’t that big of a deal. Because it is sooooo incredibly common.
Its so nice that my pain and my tears and my personal hell, are so common and trivial.
And I don’t say anything because my husband is so great at mind games. He’ll act intellectual and philosophical as a part of his mind games. ughhhh. le sigh.
My husband dad would take him out as a kid. and he’d meet his dad’s other women. So my husband thinks its completely normal. He had told his mother where they went, which wasn’t what his dad had said. And ……….. that was the last time my husband’s dad took him out anywhere.
So this is why he always says its normal.
Mentally, I understand that he’s rationalizing, maybe to appease his guilt. I don’t know.
I know sometimes I’ll end up crying after he says these things to me. My mind and my heart just can’t get on the same page.