Daughter’s Behavior Problems ….

My daughter K is in 6th grade and she has autism. In the beginning of the school year they didn’t have a teacher just a sub. It was like 6 weeks or more before they had a teacher.

And I brainstormed ideas for her behavior issues. But nothing works because she’s learned that bad behavior gets her home to do whatever.

She’s escalating.

Now she’s going to be transferred to a special school for behavior issues. Her brother goes to the same school.

But for some reason it really got to me. I could hear my daughter screaming bloody murder as I left my meeting. Its really hard seeing your child with autism having these issues and being helpless to stop it.

My husband did NOT tell me that its gonna be ok. Nope.

First he told me that bad things happen so you won’t go to Hell. Which, is fine to say, but, maybe not at THAT exact moment.

Then at home, he went off to describe all these problems.

My husband has been saying over and over again that if you complain, that you are a disbeliever and won’t go to Paradise. Someone who has horrible things happen to them and doesn’t complain, will get this and NOT you.

Its a bit troubling. I’ll probably confide is someone better than me on this issue.

This is just not the right time to talk about this.

I’m dealing with this basically all by myself. If he does help me calm her down, which he can do easily because he’s kind of a leaner Alpha so my daughter mostly calms down around him.

But its still so hard. He can talk but he’s not doing any of the work.

New School!

My son started his new school today! Yikes!

Yesterday I went to a meeting to his old school. We went over his IEP and Behavior plan with this new school. i added some input. And I decided to try this new school because I just couldn’t handle constantly going to pick him up from school, or any more with him getting expelled.

GRRRRRR.

So I went over to the new school. Its known as a “bad” school. Its a school for kidz with behavior problems. His class is small and even has a courtyard thats closed in for him to jump around and run in. (AWESOME.) It looks like because the whole school is more structured, so in a way it gives him more freedom. He didn’t have lots of freedoms at his old school because they couldn’t handle him. Oh boy

I signed out all the paperwork and the secretary gave me a cab pass until bussing starts on Monday. I got to meet some counselors, secretary. I met his teacher and the two aides. And the security guard (IC).I told them all about him and they are all pretty stern – which is good for my son. Hes too good at manipulating hehe, to get his way.

Anyways. Yesterday was a bit rough. I was a bit emotional and overwhelmed lol. The school is a bit intimidating and scary looking but it looks pretty good and the right fit for my son right now. I was just so overwhelmed yesterday and my husband could care less.

He was surprised that he got sent to the “bad school” so fast. But I pushed for it because there was NO progress at his old school. Just a quick decline.

So …………………..

Today was his first day. Apparently he had a rough start but it was smooth sailing after that. I was so glad to hear. But the whole ordeal with my son has just put me on edge. With my speakers broken (cry for me please), I haven’t been able to do ANY stress dancing at all. And its really taken a toll on me. Oh boy.

I’m giving it until next Friday and then I’ll ask them if he needs an aide to follow him. I just found out that theres a program where an aide can shadow a student around school. For those who need it. So if he continues having difficult behaviors then I’m going to try and push for this.

Still emotional, but I’m feeling better about this.

Frustrated & Worried

I had a meeting with my son’s teachers. We agreed to put stuff into place. Give him a quarter before having another meeting. And depending …….. see what our options are.

Yeah- hes not having on and off days. Hes getting more and more aggressive. Yesterday he choked a teacher. And now hes suspended for 3 days. I told the teachers to look into another school that could accommodate him better. And they said ok. Only because his aggression is only getting worse at that school.

So I’m hoping to have more answers when he goes back to school on Tuesday. I have a meeting then and they’ll call me as soon as they know anything.

Middle-School Transition

My eldest son is 11 years old and he started 6th grade this year. His transition to middle school is NOT going well at all.
grrrrrrrrr.

At the end of last year, me and his teacher put in work to make the transition smooth. It did NOT happen.

His ipad that he uses for communication was NOT there. For whatever reason hes running off a lot and over all they just can’t handle him.

He tests people and runs off if he doesn’t respect you. I arrive and then he listens to me.

Its the most frustrating thing in the world. I have an appointment next week to meet with some people. I just told my husband today whats going on.

He just said sooner or later, they’ll give up and send him to a school with more security, for bad kids. Or also, for special needs kidz with more aggresssive issues.

I feel like they are especially incompetent that they can’t even admit that they just might not be the best fit for my son. They just say that they can’t bend over backwards for one child. Whatever.

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