So my husband, recently told me that our marriage didn’t become valid until we both became Shi’a.
Which, I get, intellectually, and all. And I understand it. But people don’t forget what you did. My husband expects people just to accept him and everything because he became Shi’a, like he is born again. Slate completely wiped clean.
But I disagree. People remember.
He won’t apologize because of his ego. He doesn’t believe in begging his children or anyone else for forgiveness. People that he sees as less than him. And spending too much time with us, and he says, “I have to go pray/search/recite so I don’t go to hell.”
He’s told me multiple times me and my children are leading him to hell.
A way to make me feel loved.
And he just expects automatic forgiveness. Acts like the past 13/14 years of things don’t matter. You can’t act like that and not expect to put in work.
Just one more crazy thing to add to the list.
I know its too late for me and my marriage. Because he’s an idiot when it comes to relationships. He treats his friends with more love and respect than he ever has me or any of his children.
I just find this new aspect to be incredibly frustrating.